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Comment on Black Women…What’s with the rush to the altar? by llovely

llovely — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 21:44:09 +0000

First off women mature a lot quicker than men. And if a man aint ready to marry I’m like this don’t rush nobody into marriage cause you will regret it later. I just wouldn’t live with him or have his kids.cause I’m like if you can live with me take me through bs and everything like I’m your wife why not be married. Men look at marriage as so scary the fear is that you think you will feel trapped. In that case marry some one with your values and that has a look out on life as you. Some people marry for the wrong reasons but no matter how old you are if a person aint ready to marry there just not.and it don’t mean break up but let them know what you gone accept and what your not.

Comment on Black Women…What’s with the rush to the altar? by Maria

Maria — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 02:03:45 +0000

“Why is it that women (in general) don’t think they can do the same? Why do women feel so much pressure to settle for a man just for the sake of being in a relationship or married?”

Wow I don’t even know what to address first in your post. I think women who are approaching their 30’s, like myself, who are hoping to get married and have children one day do have a valid reason to be concerned. At the age of 30, women biologically have an increased change of having a child with Down Syndrome and other birth defects, but proven medical research confirms women 35 years of age and older are at risk for a high-risk pregnancy. While having children out of wed-lock seems to be a popular lifestyle choice in America, there are people, like myself, who still want to wait until marriage.

Overall, I think women are taught to get married first then take care of themselves. I think since the late 90’s there has been a movement among young women to go forward and pursue success before marriage. ,The down side to this is while they are finding success, there are not as many single black men over 30 who are also successful for them to date.

Comment on Black Women…What’s with the rush to the altar? by d.miller

d.miller — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 19:22:18 +0000

Edwu, you have a good point. If you look at the stats, other races do tend to marry in their 20’s but black men are not apart of that group. So, if your interest is mainly black men, then it does no good to look at what other races are doing. My interpretation of the article was this: If you’re a black woman and you are mainly interested in black men, then your best bet is to do two things. 1)Date older or 2)Take the same approach black men do get rid of the agenda. Not saying that you won’t find a black men under 30 that is willing to get married but the probability is alot higher if you take those two options above.

Im 27 and I have recently began to date younger (23 – 25) because what I continue to run into dating women my age are women that want to build something and that’s not my priority at this point. My view is to enjoy life because you only live once. I got the rest of my life to be married so doing so at 27 is not an option no matter how great the woman is. But I understand where a woman my age is coming from in wanting that so I would rather not waste their time. I recently got out of a two year relationship and when we broke up I told her I just wasn’t ready for what she wanted. She was a bit angry because she felt that she had wasted a two years and that she could be further along with someone else who was ready for marriage. I couldn’t disagree. So for now, Im dating younger even though thats about the only thing I have in common with a 24 year old chic. Im very mature for my age in many ways but when it comes to marriage, I’m staying clear for now.

Comment on Black Women…What’s with the rush to the altar? by edwu

edwu — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 18:06:01 +0000

don’t most americans (black, white, asian, latino, etc…) get married in their 20s?

without some (valid) statistics, i’m not giving this post much consideration

Comment on What Makes A Person Attractive To You? by eyezydshut

eyezydshut — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 23:21:35 +0000

The way I see myself through their eyes…

Comment on What Makes A Person Attractive To You? by JaxxMD

JaxxMD — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 21:36:35 +0000

I agree. I am definitely more attracted to intelligence, ambition, integrity and confidence than pure looks. I met a guy online who claimed to be looking for someone of substance…the first thing he asked for was a full length photo and then decided not to talk to me because of it. I’m a size 12 (Average), ALWAYS get looks and approached when I am out, I’m very successful (doctorate degree, stable career, homeowner) and a Christian. Men are definitely more interested in finding a “model type” than a “wife type”.

Comment on What Makes A Person Attractive To You? by MC

MC — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 14:33:36 +0000

I thought that I could bend on looks most recently when a male friend that I met came down to visit. I knew that he didn’t “blow me away” when I met him but he was so nice and personable that I wanted to give him a chance. We had a great weekend but I did not feel a spark. His teeth were crooked and yellow ( I am big on the smile) and he had a musty body odor. Teeth can be corrected… maybe… but BO is another story. In the end I could not continue to travel back and forth for a man that I was not attracted to. I didn’t want to waste time on the “possibility” that he would “grow on me”. He had a great personality and was a gentleman but I think I can find both AND have the attraction also. Keep hope alive!

Comment on What Makes A Person Attractive To You? by TMarie

TMarie — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 01:56:50 +0000

I would like a man who is 6ft tall, but I could bend height…he can at least 5′9″ or more. And I would also bend him making a little less than me as long as he can treat me like a queen in other ways. I don’t think I can bend on looks. I have to be physically attractive to the person in order for me to want him in any other way. He doesn’t have to be a super model or look like an actor or anything. A little cushion doesn’t bother me much either. We can work out together. But he can’t be obese. I’m a small person…But I can been onsome things. Confidence makes a person very attractive, cockiness is unattractive. Just my thoughts…

Comment on What Makes A Person Attractive To You? by llovely

llovely — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 20:03:19 +0000

I feel that the way a man feels about God and his family is number one with me.Also a good sense of humor. A person have to be pleasing to the eye but if there dumb or disrespectful that unattractive. When it comes to money I don’t want an ubemployed man but he aint got to just be ballin.I feel long as he has a goal to be somethin in life not lazy.that’s attractive to me.

Comment on Should A Person Be Judged By Their Promiscuous Past? by TPettigrew

TPettigrew — Wed, 28 Jul 2010 19:29:40 +0000

WOW! If people didn’t walk down the aisle because of someone’s unfavorable past, imagine how many marriages would not be. We all do things we regret, and sometimes with people we regret we did things with. I have to believe that if the relationship was strong and built on trust and honesty, there would be no reason for me to not trust going through with the marriage. The past is the past and we must focus today on making tomorrow better! I would definitely go through with the marriage. The only caveat to this is that I would have rather been told by my fiance.