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By now, most of you have heard of Steve Harvey’s book, “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man,” where Steve Harvey offers women much needed insight into the male mentality. According to Steve Harvey, “no matter how good you are to a man, no matter how good you are for him, until you understand what his makeup is, what drives him, what motivates him, and how he loves you…you will be vulnerable to the games he plays.” For most females who have read the book, we liken it to the “holy scripture,” our “go-to guide,” our “where have you been all of my life?” And men…well… you either hate Steve Harvey and the very ground he walks for breaking the male code of silence or you think the book is a load of crap. Regardless of your position, I think there is one topic that Steve Harvey discusses in both the youtube clip and his book that is worth discussing: The meaning of a title.
In this video, Steve Harvey suggests that men do three things when they are really into a woman: profess, provide and protect. For purposes of this blog, we will focus only on the first: profess. In short, its Steve’s position that if a man really loves you, that he will give you a title—an official one that extends far beyond “this is my friend,” or “this is _______ (insert your name here).” The idea is that if a man truly has feelings for a woman, he will claim you and if any man tries to convince you otherwise, he is just trying to keep you around until he finds a woman that is worth the title. So many times females try to make excuses for being in “relationships” going on 6 months, 1 year and even more where the man will not even claim the female as his “girl.” The excuses range from “a title means nothing,” “he considers me his girl without the title,” or my all time favorite: “he just doesn’t like labels.” Have you considered that maybe and just maybe—he’s just not that into you? Yes there is the possibility that it will take more time for his feelings to come into play, but if its been over 6, 9 or worst–12 months, then I guarantee you, he’s not claiming you for a reason. I too have been guilty of making excuses when the reality was that if a man really wanted me to be his, he would profess. Why? Because no man likes the idea of knowing that a woman who he is TRULY into is available to other men. He will want you all to himself and he will want the world to know that you are his.
Enough of what I think, what do you think? I think that an OPEN and HONEST discussion on this will give men and women a better insight into the mentality of the opposite sex.
