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Okay men… before you start agreeing with the narrator in this video clip or secretly praising him for saying what you always wanted to say to women on this issue, let’s give his opinion some background. As most of you are aware, the 90 day rule originated from Steve Harvey’s book “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man,” where Steve Harvey offers to educate women on everything and anything that they need to know about men. One piece of advice that Steve Harvey offers women is to wait 90 days before they become sexual intimate with a man that they’re dating. Yes, I said THREE ENTIRE MONTHS of sexless courtship. Unsurprisingly, this rule has caused a movement among several horny single men who vowed to convince all the temporarily celibate women out there that the rule was pure B.S. Rather these men stand firmly by the contention that how soon you give it up to a man has no bearing on how a man will view you. But is that true?
The narrator in the video clip is clearly a part of the “Early Sex” movement. He argues that if a man’s feeling you then it doesn’t matter whether you sleep with him on the first date or the 91st date. Rather, he states that if a man’s true intention is simply to sleep with you then it doesn’t matter when you sleep with him, he will dog you even on the hundredth day. The theory sounds good on paper, but I’m not sure how true it is in practice. I agree that if a man is a just trying to “get it in” then yes, how soon you give it up will have no bearing on where the relationship goes. However, I’m not sure if the theory applies to men who are truly looking for a little more. For example, let’s say a man who is open to having a committed relationship meets this insanely attractive, intelligent, and charming female—you know, the ones they sing about in music videos. And let’s say that Ms. Music video and Mr. Looking for a relationship have an amazing first date. So great that he has visions of walking her down the aisle and making her the future mother of his kids. As he pulls the car to a stop to drop Ms. Music video home, she invites him upstairs and the rest is….well you know–history. Are you telling me that this man will still view this woman as wife material? Or rather, will he now wonder how many other men she gives it to that easy?
I’m not saying that women should wait 90 days (because I know I couldn’t). But what I am saying is that if you give it up to early to a man who is open to a committed relationship, you are opening yourself up to the possibility that he will now view you as just sex. For those of you thinking, “no that’s not true,” or “why would he judge if he’d doing the same thing,” I offer you a little piece of reality: Dating is a double standard. There are certain things that men can do that we simply can’t. And while we can spend days arguing about how unfair it is, the reality of the matter is just that- it’s REALTY.
Well enough of what I think, what do you think?
