So yesterday I met up with an old female friend of mine to catch up. We are both single so the majority of our discussion revolved around relationships and challenges of dating. Not to say that dating is not fun but there are challenges when you are seeking something meaningful. She’s a beautiful, professional, and Christian woman. She does not have a list such as Chile, she’s willing to look past most physical imperfections (except for man boobs and a gut. lol), and she has a lot going for her.

So she was explaining to me her frustration with the reoccurrence of finding men that say and act like they are into her but in time they run away. They often give her the line that they are not looking for a relationship right now because they are focusing on their career. Oh, and one other fact, she has made the commitment to God to practice celibacy until marriage. She asked me for my opinion as to why this continues to happen. My first response was that even though they said they were ok with practicing celibacy till marriage, they really weren’t. My thought was that no man is going to own up to saying, “I like you but I have to have sex in order to continue dating you.” I mean that’s cool that a man wouldn’t waste a woman’s time because they need to work toward their career goals but I’m a man and I know if that one comes along that I really want, I’m going to find a way to make it work with that woman and maintain the progression in my career. But she says that her being celibate was not the issue.

So my questions to the fellas: Are the demands you are faced with in trying to advance your career so intense where you can’t fit a good woman into your life? If so, what is your view? Do you believe there are so many good women out there that you will find the perfect one when you are ready? Are you willing to accept that in the process of focusing solely on your career that you may miss out on that perfect woman? Women, have you had a similar situation? If so, tell me your thoughts.