A member recently wrote me about a situation, he faced with someone he was dating. The story went like this:

I’ve been dating a woman for 2 months and we have been sexually active over the last couple weeks. In the beginning of the relationship, we had the talk about what we were seeking from this. I informed her that I had just gotten out of a relationship and was not ready to immediately move back into something deep but I was open to see how things progressed. She informed me she was looking to build something but she was ok with what I told her. Recently we had another talk and she indicated that she wasn’t pleased with what we were doing. She was displeased that after becoming sexually active, I am still not ready to jump into a relationship. She went further to say that since it’s doesn’t seem like we are building anything, there’s no point in us having sex anymore. She followed with “I’m not giving it up for free.” What does that mean really?

So I have to ask…What does that mean? Are women really out here giving it up thinking that the relationship will become more serious as a result? As in this case, the woman really views her sex as an asset. I guess she thought that the sex was just going to hook him. Lol. Well women, my view is that sex isn’t all that. Yes, we may like it a lot but it’s not going to be a major influence on a REAL man. A REAL man seeks deeper for things like good conversation, chemistry, career drive, and values. If he is not ready, he’s just not ready yet and that has nothing to do with you. BOYS may tell you what you want to hear just to get their rocks off but this guy did everything right. He told her up front where he was and did not send her down a path he wasn’t completely sure he could commit to.

What do you think? Is sex symbolic for relationship progression or is it just sex?